About Love and Fear (My March Newsletter here as well)

I probably have mentioned earlier that if there is any book one should read, that would be the Mind Over Medicine, written by Lissa Rankin, M.D and healer. It is just absolutely awesome if you are interested in healing process and holistic well-being in general.

Now I got her second book in my hands, a new one "Fear Cure". I just love it.
It is just most simply put discernments without any judgement about how we normally live our lives and how our decisions are guided within. And how that can be non-working for our higher self or soul calling as I would say it.

I work a lot with people's belief structures and value systems. These are exactly the ones that drive our identification and decision base in life. I love shaking the non-working structures we have inherited, created, adopted, learned or what we just carry around from somewhere as our baggage. It is like a weight that prevents us making decisions with a free spirit, mind and love.

Fear can be present in so many forms and it is not recognized as fear. Examples: Overly controlling life is fear. Saying yes when you mean no is fear. Saying no when you mean yes is fear. Being overly careful or not fully open up in relationships is fear. Striving or demanding perfection is fear. Settling for less is fear. Only a couple of examples here.

Lissa talks about false fear and true fear. True fear saves us from physically threatening situations. False fear is based on our thoughts on consequences of something. And this is totally depending on our belief and value system that we currently hold. And that fear can have a firm grip on our daily life and way forward. If your mind is empty of thoughts, you are out of false fear. Simply.

One simple way to gently observe own reasoning is to ask gently on the verge of an act or decision from self: Am I doing this out of fear (broadly understood) or out of love (broadly understood)?

I have been applying this in all my actions recently; if for example something feels uncomfortable and I my tendency would be avoiding that, I am gently asking myself: is this out of fear I am avoiding this or out of love towards my self? Sometimes it is good not to push through, then it would be out of love towards self not to go for it. But if not doing it that happens out of fear, you may miss something truly important and avoid something in general in your life. Sometimes you may also push through out of fear, too, and that may be equally non-constructive.

I have found many small occasions where the fear has tried to take over but as I have realized that, I proudly have chosen the other way. And felt extremely good afterwards. It is also easier and easier to recognize the underlying motives of small self. And the less baggage we carry, the easier it gets all the time. One can be really free, once dismantling own anchors.

I am so happy and I feel that I am exactly on the right track with my life now.I have dropped as much as baggage as I can recognize and strive for as little anchors as possible. It feels so genuinely fantastic and never thought it can be possible. Being honest with self is one of the toughest lessons during this lifetime but I assure you it is worth it.

How are you guided or how do you want to be guided?

I wish you (de)lightful spring days!

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Towards new 2015

It has been quiet from my side recently. The end of last year took all my energy to keep everything together, never have I felt the world so black as it physically and metaphorically for a little while was. It is only now afterwards I understand that. So sorry for silence. Lots and lots of good things happened also. From mental pain emerges all kinds of great stuff. You are forced to, once again, dig and find the good stuff that is there (as there always is) and I figured I actually could not have it better. It was fear based darkness I was struggling with. Fear of not making it businesswise, fear of losing a really good friend, fear of not knowing what to do with life as everything seemed messy and pointless, many things I tried did not work out and insecureness kicked in. On the other hand I felt all possible circles closing in a very positive way, and that made me cry many times. Letting go is not easy but when that happens, it is absolutely relieving. There is room for a lot of new beauty now. It is not easy to walk the path you have chosen. It takes all the courage to go on, when the outside world pressure (which is actually only inside, programmed in you) kicks in. It takes every bit of will power to say no to the non-working programming and go along your own path. I have been so lucky. I am surrounded by angels, good beautiful people, mostly even new in my life, who probably unknowingly carried me through the darkness. Love, joy, closeness, hope, one friendly word, sharing, is all it takes sometimes. It changes everything even though nothing as you can see physically changes. Thank you all for being there when I just needed a tiny friendly word, a bit of encouragement, a thank you, a small praise, a warm hug. It is amazing how a small thing can change everything. It is almost scary. It has everything to do about the perspective. As I write this, the horizon from my window is dark orange and totally bright, really amazingly strong colours, sun is rising. I feel the same happening in my life. This year will be something new and unimaginable now. So many exciting things are emerging right now. Cannot wait to write about them when they realize. So pls look for the small good things in life, trust on your fellow traveler and lean on other people and share, if you have it rough. You are not alone, that's for sure. I wish you a beautiful and meaningful New Year 2015. Big hug, Erja

Take me in ! New job idea!

A friend of mine, a HR director in a big company, casually happened to mention to me that a company saves 150 000e if one premature pension due to illness is avoided. This made me think.

Well, how do you avoid those then in a most feasible way? Or what can you contribute in a company to avoid that happening?  I would not have to work much and would almost guarantee that one time 150 000 is saved. Or even smaller scale, within a function where people feel bad, give a channel to discuss safely the feelings, frustrations and find possible solutions for everyday life at work to go on more smoothly. Couldn't that be even a competitive advantage for a company if people felt they can talk to somebody, other than boss or a doctor? Kind of get help to assess the seriousness and possible ways to see and means to change a certain situation?

One of the most common and diagnosed illnesses today is depression. People are lost, tired, barely find meaning in their doings. There are many ways you can prevent that, without medicine. By challenging your thought patterns, belief systems, ways you look at the world, nutrition, exercise, you name it. The cocktail for each of us needs to be different, but workable for most. Before the illness or diagnose kicks in. I am an expert in creating that cocktail.

How about establishing this low threshold "listening ear" with coaching and mental healing capabilities before traditional doctors and medicine are needed? How about taking prevention into use also within a company? Save doctors' time for patients and use something like me for preventive measures?

I could come to your premises, charge per hours I stay, for example 3 hours a day or one day at a week or whatever suitable or needed, no social security or other employee payments necessary. I have a full toolbox of various methods and leadership practises I can utilise and have gotten appraisals for those too. Some of those can be seen on my Linkedin profile Erja profile or Mixing Nuts webpages testimonials Erja testimonials.

Only thing you need to do is to offer me a peaceful space and advertise internally within your company and we are ready to try!

Just a simple idea, but I truly think it could work !! Just come and hire me (or give me a seat) now! Let us see where this can lead to ! There is not much to loose but quite a lot to gain!

What do you think?

Ordinary Days in Life - "Arki" in FInnish

I have been thinking about this word "Arki". It does not exist in any other language than Finnish (not that I know of anyway). I looked it up in a dictionary and it was translated "Ordinary or **Non-special days of life**". Hmmm. How can we Finns live non-special days of life, most of our lives?

Many Finns live "Arki" 110%. In Arki it is ok to complain, to be bored,  just survive, pay the bills, plan the duties, execute what ever is needed in Maslow hierarchy the bottom layer (ok, maybe 2 bottoms).

I DISLIKE THAT WORD!! It should be deleted from Finnish vocabulary as the connotation to the word has become so dark, or at least it is used that way. It also gives you a great  excuse to play small if you want. Not to go after your dreams, not to challenge yourself, not to live fully, not to enjoy.  "Well, this is my "arki", I will have my holiday next year, already counting days for that..."

What if, just asking, every day was a small celebration? A small celebration of existing, breathing, having beautiful people around, being able to choose anything, express self, enjoy, laugh, smell, touch, relate, just be, love deeply. It is a perception of the reality. Only. You can shift it if you want.

Could we start using the "arki" differently  and  soon find it translated in a dictionary as "Everyday series of tiny celebrations or "Special days of life?"

See my whole August Newsletter with my current favourite recipe and new training idea here:

August Newsletter by Mixing Nuts with Erja

About (my) Spirituality

Greetings from a superb trip from Peru. Here something I wrote on my monthly newsletter today. I have not thought I am particularly spiritual. I know my view of life and the universe has changed quite a lot during recent years, and I figured it is because I have had time to reflect and think about life and our purpose here. I have also been commented lately that I carry a lot of light, a lot of good energy. I do not know if that earlier has been the case, but at least it is noticeable now in a way that people comment, and almost weekly. Has this something to do with spirituality? I think yes. So what is it then that makes one "spiritual"? I have figured this is a difficult question to many, and in many occasions people rather skip this when raised (especially in corporate well-being settings). I also got a comment recently from a person that he "would not get my spirituality ever, as he is not religious". Wow, that struck me. I need to express here specifically that my spirituality has nothing to do with religion(s). Religions mostly claim that a person is small and sinful, and somebody from up above may save you (and that you are sinful by nature). Or that you need to behave in a certain way to "earn" a better life in the future. I do not believe that one bit. I believe we all carry the good within, and can express it. The more we find it within, the better place the world is. It is also unity with the world, not separation. To be able to express love is spirituality, to me. My healing practises and how I started practising this relate to growing into being a conscious human, in many levels. Firstly it has meant that I had to look deep and hard into my own wounds and issues in this life and acknowledge those. What then followed was that I was able to turn those into my strengths and learn the related healing techniques so that I am able to help others, too. These are thousands of years old healing wisdom, methods and rituals of Andean people, which recently have been exposed to western knowledge. Spiritual, yes, if spirituality is understood in a broad meaning of including a bit of understanding or an attempt to understand everything we cannot see with our eyes and reason with our logical brain (our brain, the rational one handles only 10% of the overall information). Just surrender to what is and can be. I know time is not only linear; I know there are other realms than our current physical world ; I know energy is as real as matter; I know universe is there for us; I relate to nature and all physical beings here and nature is of outmost importance to me; I hear or sense more than is said; I know we live many lives. Do I understand all paranormal phenomenon or get what all people are doing in this field? Definitely no. I just know that there is a lot to understand and learn, and let all of us be as we are. Life is precious as it is and we are all given an opportunity to live the fullest life we are able to. I also know from my holistic well-being studies that some form of spirituality is an essential part of the total well-being. What are the ways you can relate to this? Found this recently, this might give an idea also, if you are struggling with the meaning. 20 signs you are a spiritually healthy person

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Stop Defending your Fears

I saw this title STOP DEFENDING YOUR FEARS in an article Happiness in your life -Newsletter  and I just love this topic, so a couple of thoughts also by me about this.

I relate this to a thing called a backdoor. We create backdoors consciously and many times even unconsciously, and stick to them (I think I have written about these earlier as well). What does this mean?

Backdoor is something you use not to fully commit to what you desire. Backdoor is a good excuse not to act on your soul's best interest. Backdoor is always based on some kind of fear. Fear of failure:  what if I cannot make it? Fear of embarrassment: who am I to dream THAT because I already have this? Fear of being cocky: this is what people are satisfied with, so who am I to ask for my extreme happiness? Fear of being selfish: this is good enough, I settle with this. Fear of acting agains society's "standards" i.e. not fitting into crowd: I cannot divorce because my kids will suffer. Fear of non-success: I cannot quit my job because I lose my level of living standards. Fear of facing own and other's feelings: I keep side affairs so that I can stay married because I "have to". Fear of being honestly you: white lies are ok so that I do not have to hurt other people. Fear of putting boundaries: It is good always to be kind not to hurt other people. The backdoors are endless. The fears can be quite dominating in running your life script.

When I started my business I realized that my biggest fear was not to succeed in what I love the most. I mean how hurtful could that be if you put and commit yourself 100% to something and then you fail? (This goes for relationships in my life, too). It would have been comforting to my mind taking a side job or not to start at all, based on my fear, as then I did not have to put myself at stake. BUT. The big but. What would have I missed if I did not do everything I can and imagine and dream (still in the process btw). It was then I realized that whatever happens, I do my 110% now, and if I do not make it, then fine. Then I make a graceful exit but at least there are no "what if's" no "holding backs". The backdoors are such that afterwards you think "Damn. What if I did that differently, what if I had the courage. What if I just had listened to myself, really".

I wish you courage to kick your fears, close at least some of your backdoors and go enjoy fully the beautiful spring!! And your whole life for that matter. 

About trust and and balance and human soul

I have recently been encountering "stuff" that has made me confront myself in terms of faith; about the future, about how to live our life, about how to be in this world.

I was sitting in a meeting, where a finnish writer was talking about her world view in general (she is a bit older lady already), and I could not avoid hearing the pessimism or maybe put it a bit more clear, mistrust, for the future survival of humanity. It made me wonder. Also recently met people have made me ponder about trust in life in general.

There is currently a huge imbalance on earth. We have destroyed so much in the name of progress and productivity,  and we mostly have forgot humanity and life itself. Efficiency is what prevails currently in many societies and structures of the economics, the way things are set up. How far does it serve a human soul?

On the other hand so many people have acknowledged that something is missing, something is totally off-balance, something is terribly wrong. I do believe our future generations are viewing this situation from a very different angle than ours and a couple of older ones. We have emphasized rational thinking in the name of progress in creating current world structures,  and this may not work any more. We have associated rationality with intelligence.  Rationality is not that fond of emotions, well-being, courage, warmth, empathy, love, harmony, universe, peace, nature. Rationality works well with outer environment (to a certain point) but what about our inner environment? There are 8 other intelligence definitions than rationality.  Maybe it is time to take into use other forms of thinking to counterbalance this where we are now.  Solution can be closer than we think, just if we change the perception. Shift altogether. Put our priorities in a new order and change the angle. It is possible.

Call me naive or whatever, but I choose to live in a world where I see beauty. I close tv when war news and accident news are on, politicians talk nonsense or violence dominates. I choose to act in communities which strengthen the feeling of accountability, shared responsibility and faith for the future. Power based on loving individuality driven collectively, intuition and collective soul will take over at some point. The question is only when. As Alberto Villoldo says: Let us dream our world into being. We can do it, together. What you believe in and set your intention to, will manifest. Sooner or later.

See how you can see something not that expected here:
Sometimes security cameras show something totally different

What is your intention?

Täydellisyyden tavoittelusta - about being perfect

See english version below

Mitä se on, täydellisyys? Mihin se liittyy? Asioiden loppuunsaattamiseen, kauneuteen, erehtymättömyyteen, oikein valitsemiseen, tietämiseen, harkintakykyyn, velvollisuuksien täyttämiseen, työn tekemiseen, pärjäämiseen, osaamiseen, parhaimpana olemiseen, kunnon ihmisenä olemiseen, mihin?

Minun on aina jotenkin täytynyt olla täydellinen. Osata kokeissa ainakin ysin edestä, pitää koti niin siistinä että "joku " joka tulee yllättäen ei saa sydänkohtausta, suorittaa tutkintoja, olla superhyvä äiti, huomioida muut, ajatella toisten puolesta, kantaa vastuu, selvittää asiat, tehdä hyödyllisiä asioita, ymmärtää muita; ihan mitä vain. Minulle täydellisyys on liittynyt usein suorittamiseen. Eikä siinä ole mitään pahaa että haluaa tehdä asiat hyvin. Ongelmalliseksi se muodostuu silloin, kun ei mielestään tee jotain täydellisesti, ja ajattelee siitä seurauksena, että ei ole riittävän hyvä. Siis ihmisenä, omana itsenä. Se on se iso korjaamisen paikka ajatus-tunne -ketjussa.

Voiko vain olemalla olla täydellinen? Siinäpä hyvä kysymys. Nykypäivänä ajattelen että voi. Suomalla itselleen pieniä epätäydellisyyksiä alkaa löytämään sitä pientä tervettä itserakkauden poikasta, joka on niin tuiki tarpeellinen meille itse kullekin. Kun ei vaadi ihmeitä itseltä. Kun ei vaadi mitään itseltä. Kuka meitä rakastaa ellemme me itse? 

Harjoittelin epätäydellisyyden tunnetta kun en kirjoittanut syyskuun Newsletteriä lainkaan (anteeksipyyntö siitä). Kuinka usein se onkaan tullut mieleen, ja suhteellisen pieni asia ! Hui! Olenko huono ihminen (suoraan identiteetin tasolla!) - teinhän sentään 10 ilmaista NUTtipsiä, ken sitä tajusi tilata. Egon tarvitsee puolustaa tilannetta. Mitäpä jos vain sanoisin että ei nyt huvittanut. Tai runosuoni ei kukkinut. Tai ei ollut asiaa. Mutta onpas se vaikeaa itselle. Ajatus että vaikka en tehnyt mitä olen hiljaisesti luvannut, olen silti täydellinen.

Harjoittelen täysillä tätä ah niin vapauttavaa epätäydellisyyttä ! :-) Harjoittele sinäkin ! 

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What does it mean, being perfect? What does it relate to? Finishing businesses and things, beauty, being right, choosing right, knowing enough, thinking capability, fulfilling tasks, working, coping, being able to, being the best, being a proper human being, or what?

I have always carried this stigma of being at least almost perfect. Be a good student in exams, keep the house clean so that anybody can pop in at any point of time, do my degrees, be an excellent mom, think about others, think FOR others, carry the responsibility, clear things out, do useful things in general, understand others, you name it. To me being perfect has often related to accomplishing things. And there is nothing wrong in wanting to do things well. The situation becomes somewhat problematic when one thinks that if you do not do your job perfectly, you think that you are not good enough. As a human being, as you. There is the catch in the chain of thinking-feeling. And that can be changed.

Can one be perfect just by being? What a good question. Nowadays I am convinced that one can. That you can. By allowing yourself small imperfectnesses along the way, you start finding that little ray of self-love that is so important for your self. When you don't expect miracles from yourself. When you don't expect ANYTHING from yourself. Who will love you if not you yourself?

I practised this feeling of being imperfect as I totally skipped September Newsletter (apologies for that). It has come quite a many times in my mind, such a small thing!! Am I a bad person (going directly to my identity !) - at least I compensated that by sending 10 free Nuttips if someone realized to order those... Ego wants to defend the situation. What if I just said to myself that I was not in the mood. Or that I did not have anything to say last month. How difficult ! A thought that I am perfect, regardless.

I am practising fully this being imperfect. It is truly liberating! I encourage you to do the same! :-)

Try it out

Picture from Be Part of the Shift FB page

It is about surrendering. 

It is about letting go. 

It is about losing control and accepting that. 

It is about becoming extremely humble and accepting that whatever is there, is there for the reason. 

It is about having enough courage to say what you want and need and deserve. 

It is about putting boundaries.

It is about finding your passion.

It is about finding compassion towards everything.

It is about trust. 

It is about faith. 

It is about courageous dreaming. 

It is about being active.

It is about actively dreaming your desired world into being.

It is about acceptance. 

It is about closeness. 

It is about intimacy. 

It is about friendship.

It is about love.

What is? 

Your Authentic Life. 

Your Purpose.

Your Meaning.

Let it come to you. 

Now.

Masks and chameleons

I have been wondering, what is exactly the point of time when one gets so bored with him- or herself that there is no other way than ripping off all masks. Also, could there be beneficial masks, too, I mean that could it be that a person would be better off if the mask would never be stripped?
The process is hell-of-a-scary anyway.

Anyhow I think the only way to learn something about self is to go really deep in one's self on soul level, and  no masks fit in there. Strip all, good and bad. Who am I without any perception, without any learned or accepted model to act, without a hint of any gain to be achieved in a situation where I am used to acting in a certain way to gain something, without any role I have been carrying my whole life?

We wear masks due to various even unknown reasons I suppose. We are too afraid of being here as we deeply are, vulnerable, hurtful, heart open, in the moment, filled with love, sensitivity and hope for good. Masks make us strong, fitting, acceptable, admirable, worth pursuing, by most of the society's norms anyway.  Masks make us unbeatable. Mask is ran by ego. Ego is not very constructive, to say the minimum.

What if everybody was allowed to be broken, not perfect, not beautiful, not fit, not having it all.
What if it was OK just be perfect you, just by being entire you?

I started thinking about chameleons as well. Chameleon is kind of a master in wearing a mask. It can adapt and change to any environment and circumstance by fitting in. How truthful is that when a person does that?
Why do we sell our soul so cheap? What is the price of not being true you?

You tell me.

Deepak Chopra has said: There comes a time when we are not happy until we know who we are.

And until we know that, how can we attract any person or any thing real in our lives?

Law of Attraction

I have been a firm advocate talking about the law of attraction in peoples' lives. I firmly want to believe that once you open up your heart and let it flow while having your intention clear and pure, things start flowing towards you. You just need to be open to grasp them at that point. Sometimes you don't even have to grasp as they step on your toes.

I have been asking from Universe a clear sign that this is happening in my life, too. As a person whose brain is taught to be overvalued, I am a bit blind when it comes to my own stuff. (As if there was no proof enough for myself thinking my life a bit over 2 years back and now :-) :-)). But anyway.

So, this has somehow been actively in my mind recently, and I have been pondering about it a lot.

I need to tell you about yesterday.

In the morning I figured that my tiny fantastic dog had pooped on my white carpet downstairs (and with stomach problem). I already earlier had thought that my carpets would need a bit refreshing, meaning that I should go and find some new ones. I have been living without or with old ones from my summer house for a year now, because of the dog. I was thinking how to get motivated enough to go to a carpet store (not my biggest motivation source, and I have not bought them yet in the internet, which I do a lot for other stuff) and how to finance it as carpets are not that cheap. Dragging the formerly white carpet out after trying to wash it, the doorbell rang. And voilá, there was a carpet seller, believe it or not. He was cmoning from a fair, had some carpets left, and was travelling to Switzerland. He said he needs to pay taxes of the unsold carpets he was carrying so he did not want to take any back and wanted just to get rid of them with a reasonable price. So I made a great deal, bought two carpets I just needed and was happy. Easy !

Then another secular thing from yesterday, I had been actively wondering that I would really need to practise tennis with male company as well in order to improve. In the evening I just out of the blue had a question from a friend's brother whether I would need a training buddy. YES I NEED ONE, thank you!!  So that was clear and set.

These are very practical examples of the mind's power in the universe. Conincidence? Hmmmmm. I have read that coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous. I can believe that.

Also yesterday I thought how blessed I am with my about to start active new career, all incredible people I have attracted to my life somehow, all incredible circles I am honoured to be part of, you name it. This was also something I have been actively dreaming into being for a longer time and suddenly I have it. How "weird" is that? <3

And my other big "secret" dreams? ;-)   I will let you know what happens next :-).

About love

Privileged, and blessed, are those, who may experience and give unconditional love. I think it is the most lacking ingredient in life of people nowadays. We try to fill the void with everything imaginable: food, sports, stuff, money, crazy hours at work, alcohol, parties... you name it. And behind everything, if you dare to look at it, is the craving of being held, being nourished, being loved just as you are. Bare you. Without accomplishments, without titles, without anything special, except special you.

It is difficult as we are so conditioned from the childhood (or earlier) that we are good and accepted only on certain conditions: if you get good grades at school; if you are a good girl; if you behave; if you sacrifice, if you are nice; if you don't stand out; if you do as all others do; if you just... the list is endless. It is difficult to learn to receive love as you may never really had it from outside or learned to love yourself inside . And difficult to give love as you never experienced it.

How to connect to the source within? This is where it all begins. Once you realize you can love yourself fully and unconditionally, the rest follows. Loving yourself and appreciating yourself as you are is the best gift you can give yourself. Love will attract love.

Search your soul. Find your love. As in the end, it is the only thing that matters.

Healees and healers

When you help someone who is lost and confused;
When you hold someone who is sad and grieving;
When you hug someone who is unhappy and hopeless;
You too will feel healed and whole. ♥

~ Dr Jeff Mula


This I saw today on the lovely Facebook page of Back Towards Light and I started once again thinking about the new chosen career of mine. I was in London last weekend, attending the first ever IIN (Institution for Integrative Nutrition) conference outside US. We had a privilege of being only 100+ attendees this time, as normally it can be over 4000 in US in related conferences. It was extremely interesting and fascinating to meet Joshua Rosenthal, who is the founder of the school and the innovator for this kind of total healing process related to health coaching practise. We also had great speakers, like Gabrielle Bernstein who really blew my mind by raising my awareness on how to combine things you love into your practise, as well as Simon Brown, who makes it so simple for us to understand the connectedness of us all and everything in the universe.


What became apparent was that with every client and person we health coaches meet, we heal ourselves at the same time, all time long, and it is probably a lifetime journey. As even it may sound like an easy fix to correct your diet, there is always more to it in people's lives. Things may apparently show on the eating habit level but indicate something worth looking at more deeply. 


I started wondering why are we people so often so broken. Are we born in this world whole, and intact, and then get hurt, or do we carry wounds from previous lives, in order to grow and understand this reality we call life, this time on earth a bit more? Can be either way I think. But almost certain is that none of us survives without hurt in this life.


Inca healers believe, that when we are hurt enough, part of our soul is buried into the ground, deep down, where it can remain safe. It is awaiting there to come back to life, when we are ready. It may be that not in this life, but maybe in the following, or some lives after. Or even in this one, if we are courageous and patient enough to face our brokenness, be ready to heal ourselves and take a stand and effort for loving ourselves enough to feel hole again. That part of our soul or those hurt hidden parts are retrievable. With love and a bit of support we can do miracles with our own lives and become whole again.


This is what the whole coaching is about. Being there as a support, what ever may be or come. Love, listen, heal. And the best part is to heal at the same process yourself.

Message for me from a shop windon in London        

Takaovista - About Backdoors

Törmäsin mielenkiintoiseen asiaan toissaviikonloppuisella kurssilla.

Pidätkö sinäkin takaovea auki, kaiken varalta? Ihmissuhteissa, työssä, haaveissa, tavoitteissa?

Tajusin itse tehneeni tätä vähemmän tietoisesti aiemmin koko elämäni, varsinkin miessuhteissa ja töissä. Voisinko melkein sanoa etten ole koskaan sitoutunut tai kokenut olevani sitoutunut satakymmenprosenttisesti, syystä tai toisesta? Ei ihme että asiat eivät ole menneet niin kuin olen toivonut tai eivät olet tuntuneet siltä kuin olisin toivonut, syvällä sisimmässä. Enkö ole uskaltanut? Mitä jos yritän ihan kaikkeni ja menee pieleen?

Tajusin nanosekunnissa, että olemalla rehellinen itselleen, toiveilleen, sielulleen, tavoitteilleen, ja lähtemällä niitä kohti täysillä, ilman takaovea, on oikeastaan ainoa tapa päästä jonnekin tärkeään. Rohkeutta se vaatii kosolti, koska ei olekaan sitä aktiivista varaturvaverkkoa johon helposti laskeutua.

Laskelmointi ja taktikointi vie vain puolitiehen, jos sinnekään.

Mikä määrä energiaa vapautuu, kun keskittyykin tärkeään ja uskoo siihen.

Huomaatko sinä pitäväsi takaovea auki joissain asioissa?

Minä olen sulkenut niitä nyt aktiivisesti.
Olen matkalla, ja energisöitynyt.
Ilmankos elämä hymyilee, juuri nyt, ja aurinko paistaa.

Toivottavasti se hymyilee sinullekin !

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I started thinking of an interesting phenomenon during a great course I took previous weekend.

Do you have your backdoor open, just in case? In relationships, at work, in your dreams, in your goals in life?

I realized I have done this more or less consciously whole my life, especially when it comes to relationships with men, and work. Could I claim that I have never been fully committed, for a reason or other. No wonder things have not been going as I would have hoped for or felt as good as I had hoped for, deep down. Didn't I dare? What if I tried from the bottom of my heart and did not succeed?

I understood in a nanosecond, that the only way to reach somewhere truly meaningful is to be honest with one's self, dreams, soul, goals, and reaching out fully, without any backdoors. This requires courage, as there is not this kind of active safetynet on which to fall easily.

Calculating and maneuvering only takes you halfway, if even there.

What an amount of energy is freed, once you concentrate on the meaningful, and believe in it.

Do you recognize your own backdoors?

I recently have been closing them actively.
I am so energized and on my way.
Life is good to me and sun is shining.

I hope it shines for you, too!

Hyvinvoinnin anatomiasta - About the anatomy of well-being

Miten onkin niin, että joku ihminen voi syödä joidenkin mielestä suunnattoman epäterveellisesti, mutta voida silti äärimmäisen hyvin ja olla fyysisesti terve?

Miksi joku toinen, joka laskee joka kalorin, liikkuu superkurinalaisesti ja on muutenkin kaikin puolin kelpo kansalainen, ei voi hyvin ja on mahdollisesti sairaalloinenkin.

Tässä se juttu, miksi rakastuin opinahjooni, koska siellä jaotellaan ravintoa monenmoiseen kategoriaan; ei ole vain sitä ravintoa jota laitamme kurkusta alas, vaan myös niinkutsuttua ensisijaista ravintoa, joka on kaikki muu mitä meillä on ympärillä: ihmissuhteet, liikkuminen, henkisyys ja ura, itsemme toteuttaminen jne jne. Jännittävällä tavalla tämä kaikki muodostaa meidän ravinteemme tässä maailmassa, ja kokonaisuuden summa määrittää hyvinvointimme asteen.

Mitä enemmän olen tehnyt töitä ensisijaisen ravinteeni eteen, sitä onnellisempi olen.
Mielestäni tässä on joku juju.

Olen aloittamassa hyvinvointikonsulttina koska opiskeluni alkavat olla siinä jamassa että voin niin tehdä, ja suuri haaveeni on keskittyä nimenomaan tähän ensisijaiseen ravintoon, tietenkään unohtamatta perusravintotietoutta. Haluan eritoten auttaa kiireisiä tai stressaantuneita naisia löytämään tasapainon ja kuulemaan itseään suorittamisen viidakossa. Tosin en käännytä ovelta miespuolisiakaan itsensä etsijöitä tai parempaa ravintoa kaipaavia.

Elämä on jännittävää ja ihanaa !

Kurkista webbisivujani http://erja-jarvela.healthcoach.integrativenutrition.com/ , ne ovat viittä vaille valmiit, tai näillä nyt mennään tällä hetkellä. Voit downloadata myös ilmaiseksi loistavan kirjan "Feed your hunger for Health and Happiness", jonka on kirjoittanut kouluni perustaja Joshua Rosenthal.

Same in english;

How can it be, that someone, who eats fairly unhealthy, is feeling really great and is not falling ill, as someone being disciplined with calory calculations and food intake, does a lot of sports and is a "good citizen" in these means, can feel bad and actually be ill?

This is the dilemma why I love my school, as they have officially introduced the theory of primary and secondary food: primary food is actually all other stuff, the stuff that we do not swallow (at least physically :-)). Primary food is relationships, spirituality, movement (sports), career, self-fulfillment etc etc. In an exciting way the combination of everything actually provides us with the nutrition we need,  and the total wellness comes from the balance of these all, combined with secondary food.

Personally, the more I have worked with my primary food, the happier I have been in general. I think there is a clu in this.

I am just about to start my career as a health coach as my studies are at that point that it allows me to,  and my big dream is to focus on people's primary food, not to forget of course the secondary. I specifically want to reach out and help busy and stressed women, who are struggling to find balance in their life, or hear themselves in the execution of everyday routines. I will not turn down men, for that matter, who are seeking themselves or just more healthy nutrition.

Life is exciting and fantastic !

Have also a look at my website http://erja-jarvela.healthcoach.integrativenutrition.com/, the pages are just about to be ready. You can download free the excellent book "Feed your hunger with Health and Happiness", written by the founder of my school, Joshua Rosenthal.

Joy

Have you ever had that wonderful joyful feeling, when a spesifically good feeling totally fulfills you inside out, and you feel the joy and goodness trying to come out from your inside somehow and needs to be expressed.... :-)

I have it now.

It is total inner peace combined with happiness, being overly content exactly where you are, and feeling grateful for everything around. My home, my relationships. My friends. My hobbies, puppy, daughter, career, sports. Spirituality. New things in life. Choices in life, tough decisions, challenges, sorrows. All has been there and is there for a reason. And I am happy.

At the moment like this I tend to think that everything is possible in life, and I can become what I want to become, what I have been meant to become. I am so connected with universe. I am on a right track and this is leading me somewhere unknown, but for sure interesting and fun and exciting. The way is already like that! And it still gets better.

I just love feelings like this. Hope I remember it and I am able to return to it in the time of despair or disbelief as those are not unknown to me either.

Frank Sinatra is singing (just suits the mood :-))

Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you
If you're young at heart.
For it's hard, you will find, to be narrow of mind
If you're young at heart.

You can go to extremes with impossible schemes.
You can laugh when your dreams fall apart at the seams.
And life gets more exciting with each passing day.
And love is either in your heart, or on it's way.

Don't you know that it's worth every treasure on earth
To be young at heart.
For as rich as you are, it's much better by far
To be young at heart.

And if you should survive to 105,
Look at all you'll derive out of being alive!
And here is the best part, you have a head start
If you are among the very young at heart.

Let's dream big !!! And become and be big, proudly.

Health with a pill?

I encountered an interesting article today.

It stated, that if there was a pill that would be claimed to prevent diseases, 64% of the readers of that magazine were eager to take that pill.  A bit of cholesterol prevention medicine, a bit of blood pressure prevention and aspirine, what else? 

Are we really trusting our health to a preventive pill (which is artificial by nature, nobody knows about the side effects etc etc...)?

Why do we think we are better in control of our life and illnesses that way, and why do we believe that everything is well when we think we control it with medicine? Interesting.

I earlier also read about a study/studies, with which it has been proven, that we actually can prevent specifically coronary heart disease and type 2 diabetes significantly with a certain set of lifestyle and nutritional combination (there were other studies too but these were extremely specific).

If you are a non-smoker, your BMI is less than 25kg/m2, you exercise around half an hour a day, you are considered to be eating healthy (low in trans-fat, low glycogemic load, high fish, high fiber, high total folate and moderate alcohol consumption (1 drink max every other day). If people would live like this in general, 82 % of the coronary heart diseases would be avoidable (the best heart medicine prevents the disease only by 25 %). The same set applies with type 2 diabetes, except that with 92% of that disease could be avoided.

Isn't it interesting that in that study only 3.1% of the people fell into this kind of category, i.e. had the required balance in lifestyle.

I belive with nutrition and healthy habits we could prevent more diseases than with a pill.

What do you think?

Why is it difficult to be kind to your body (and soul) by nature, and prevent these things naturally as it is quite possible?

This is where it starts !! Welcome on board!

I am surpised and enthusiastic to realize how we are at the cutting edge of the whole health industry       (as we are on the cutting edge of quartal economy and its values but that's worth another blogging)!
But do these tie together somehow?  In my mind they do.
People are forced to think on their own behalf in corporate world today.
People have started thinking more and more on their own behalf in health related issues as well.

Research of nutrition is in the shoes of an infant today. Human body is really mysterious and wonderful. And how little do we know about it. And how little do we know about what is really affecting our health and how. Not to mention that all human bodies are unique. I must say it sure is interesting and just the right times to be on board studying all this!

I am so happy and priviledged to have found this community of holistic nutrition. It has unlimited number of paths I can follow and I just cannot believe all the exciting stuff it can lead me towards. I wanted to become a doctor when I was a kid, but now I know that this is the most interesting thing I can study right now: human health and healing, and the meaning of holistic nutrition to a person.

I want to grow to fully understand and explain  the holistic idea of health and wellness. I also want to make a difference in people's lives by giving something to think at least, maybe give a hint or two, or later really work together on  health matters in the long run. Balancing one's life with all requirements and own state of will, being true to one's self, right and energetic nutrition, meaning of primary foods (relationships, spirituality, exercise and career) in one's life, healing nutrition; all interesting stuff put together. In the future I would especially like to advice people who are in a hectic corporate life, finding their way to balance life, as I myself have been there and made my way through, working and performing as a single mom. And now starting something new for the rest of my life! I am so excited.

I have just started my journey visibly, but deep down this has been ongoing for years already.

Well-being of others and myself  has always been close to my heart. I hope you walk by my side here. I try to express my feelings and thoughts here in the blog and at some point soon establish my website and business as well.

This is my starting point, I am glad I can share it with you !

Picture from FB site "Concious Living"

Don't live safe, live true!!!


Btw, would you like to have this in finnish also?