31.3.2015

About Love and Fear (My March Newsletter here as well)

I probably have mentioned earlier that if there is any book one should read, that would be the Mind Over Medicine, written by Lissa Rankin, M.D and healer. It is just absolutely awesome if you are interested in healing process and holistic well-being in general.

Now I got her second book in my hands, a new one "Fear Cure". I just love it.
It is just most simply put discernments without any judgement about how we normally live our lives and how our decisions are guided within. And how that can be non-working for our higher self or soul calling as I would say it.

I work a lot with people's belief structures and value systems. These are exactly the ones that drive our identification and decision base in life. I love shaking the non-working structures we have inherited, created, adopted, learned or what we just carry around from somewhere as our baggage. It is like a weight that prevents us making decisions with a free spirit, mind and love.

Fear can be present in so many forms and it is not recognized as fear. Examples: Overly controlling life is fear. Saying yes when you mean no is fear. Saying no when you mean yes is fear. Being overly careful or not fully open up in relationships is fear. Striving or demanding perfection is fear. Settling for less is fear. Only a couple of examples here.

Lissa talks about false fear and true fear. True fear saves us from physically threatening situations. False fear is based on our thoughts on consequences of something. And this is totally depending on our belief and value system that we currently hold. And that fear can have a firm grip on our daily life and way forward. If your mind is empty of thoughts, you are out of false fear. Simply.

One simple way to gently observe own reasoning is to ask gently on the verge of an act or decision from self: Am I doing this out of fear (broadly understood) or out of love (broadly understood)?

I have been applying this in all my actions recently; if for example something feels uncomfortable and I my tendency would be avoiding that, I am gently asking myself: is this out of fear I am avoiding this or out of love towards my self? Sometimes it is good not to push through, then it would be out of love towards self not to go for it. But if not doing it that happens out of fear, you may miss something truly important and avoid something in general in your life. Sometimes you may also push through out of fear, too, and that may be equally non-constructive.

I have found many small occasions where the fear has tried to take over but as I have realized that, I proudly have chosen the other way. And felt extremely good afterwards. It is also easier and easier to recognize the underlying motives of small self. And the less baggage we carry, the easier it gets all the time. One can be really free, once dismantling own anchors.

I am so happy and I feel that I am exactly on the right track with my life now.I have dropped as much as baggage as I can recognize and strive for as little anchors as possible. It feels so genuinely fantastic and never thought it can be possible. Being honest with self is one of the toughest lessons during this lifetime but I assure you it is worth it.

How are you guided or how do you want to be guided?

I wish you (de)lightful spring days!



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7.1.2015

Towards new 2015

It has been quiet from my side recently.
The end of last year took all my energy to keep everything together, never have I felt the world so black as it physically and metaphorically for a little while was. It is only now afterwards I understand that. So sorry for silence.
Lots and lots of good things happened also. From mental pain emerges all kinds of great stuff. You are forced to, once again, dig and find the good stuff that is there (as there always is) and I figured I actually could not have it better. It was fear based darkness I was struggling with. Fear of not making it businesswise, fear of losing a really good friend, fear of not knowing what to do with life as everything seemed messy and pointless, many things I tried did not work out and insecureness kicked in. On the other hand I felt all possible circles closing in a very positive way, and that made me cry many times. Letting go is not easy but when that happens, it is absolutely relieving.
There is room for a lot of new beauty now.
It is not easy to walk the path you have chosen. It takes all the courage to go on, when the outside world pressure (which is actually only inside, programmed in you) kicks in. It takes every bit of will power to say no to the non-working programming and go along your own path.
I have been so lucky. I am surrounded by angels, good beautiful people, mostly even new in my life, who probably unknowingly carried me through the darkness. Love, joy, closeness, hope, one friendly word, sharing, is all it takes sometimes. It changes everything even though nothing as you can see physically changes.
Thank you all for being there when I just needed a tiny friendly word, a bit of encouragement, a thank you, a small praise, a warm hug.
It is amazing how a small thing can change everything. It is almost scary.
It has everything to do about the perspective.
As I write this, the horizon from my window is dark orange and totally bright, really amazingly strong colours, sun is rising. I feel the same happening in my life. This year will be something new and unimaginable now. So many exciting things are emerging right now. Cannot wait to write about them when they realize.
So pls look for the small good things in life, trust on your fellow traveler and lean on other people and share, if you have it rough. You are not alone, that's for sure.
I wish you a beautiful and meaningful New Year 2015.
Big hug,
Erja