About Love and Fear (My March Newsletter here as well)

I probably have mentioned earlier that if there is any book one should read, that would be the Mind Over Medicine, written by Lissa Rankin, M.D and healer. It is just absolutely awesome if you are interested in healing process and holistic well-being in general.

Now I got her second book in my hands, a new one "Fear Cure". I just love it.
It is just most simply put discernments without any judgement about how we normally live our lives and how our decisions are guided within. And how that can be non-working for our higher self or soul calling as I would say it.

I work a lot with people's belief structures and value systems. These are exactly the ones that drive our identification and decision base in life. I love shaking the non-working structures we have inherited, created, adopted, learned or what we just carry around from somewhere as our baggage. It is like a weight that prevents us making decisions with a free spirit, mind and love.

Fear can be present in so many forms and it is not recognized as fear. Examples: Overly controlling life is fear. Saying yes when you mean no is fear. Saying no when you mean yes is fear. Being overly careful or not fully open up in relationships is fear. Striving or demanding perfection is fear. Settling for less is fear. Only a couple of examples here.

Lissa talks about false fear and true fear. True fear saves us from physically threatening situations. False fear is based on our thoughts on consequences of something. And this is totally depending on our belief and value system that we currently hold. And that fear can have a firm grip on our daily life and way forward. If your mind is empty of thoughts, you are out of false fear. Simply.

One simple way to gently observe own reasoning is to ask gently on the verge of an act or decision from self: Am I doing this out of fear (broadly understood) or out of love (broadly understood)?

I have been applying this in all my actions recently; if for example something feels uncomfortable and I my tendency would be avoiding that, I am gently asking myself: is this out of fear I am avoiding this or out of love towards my self? Sometimes it is good not to push through, then it would be out of love towards self not to go for it. But if not doing it that happens out of fear, you may miss something truly important and avoid something in general in your life. Sometimes you may also push through out of fear, too, and that may be equally non-constructive.

I have found many small occasions where the fear has tried to take over but as I have realized that, I proudly have chosen the other way. And felt extremely good afterwards. It is also easier and easier to recognize the underlying motives of small self. And the less baggage we carry, the easier it gets all the time. One can be really free, once dismantling own anchors.

I am so happy and I feel that I am exactly on the right track with my life now.I have dropped as much as baggage as I can recognize and strive for as little anchors as possible. It feels so genuinely fantastic and never thought it can be possible. Being honest with self is one of the toughest lessons during this lifetime but I assure you it is worth it.

How are you guided or how do you want to be guided?

I wish you (de)lightful spring days!

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About love

Privileged, and blessed, are those, who may experience and give unconditional love. I think it is the most lacking ingredient in life of people nowadays. We try to fill the void with everything imaginable: food, sports, stuff, money, crazy hours at work, alcohol, parties... you name it. And behind everything, if you dare to look at it, is the craving of being held, being nourished, being loved just as you are. Bare you. Without accomplishments, without titles, without anything special, except special you.

It is difficult as we are so conditioned from the childhood (or earlier) that we are good and accepted only on certain conditions: if you get good grades at school; if you are a good girl; if you behave; if you sacrifice, if you are nice; if you don't stand out; if you do as all others do; if you just... the list is endless. It is difficult to learn to receive love as you may never really had it from outside or learned to love yourself inside . And difficult to give love as you never experienced it.

How to connect to the source within? This is where it all begins. Once you realize you can love yourself fully and unconditionally, the rest follows. Loving yourself and appreciating yourself as you are is the best gift you can give yourself. Love will attract love.

Search your soul. Find your love. As in the end, it is the only thing that matters.